I wrote this for another site but it translates to this site as well, so forget some of the names and locations involved and just take it for what it is. To those of you I had in mind when writing it...thank you.\n \nSO...\n \nThere has been a lot of hubbub about ______'s thread, some misconceptions on how that thread went after a few pages, some issues with some people on "gay bashing" and bullying. \n \nHow did ______ change you? \n \nMyself I came into this lovely place and had some prior experiences with gay people. I have an Aunt who is a lesbian, we live in a very small town and its fairly conservative, she lives her life very secretatively. She is open with her sexuality but I would say she makes a concerted effort to live her life very privately. I also have a friend who when growing we all knew there was something "different" about but never confronted him about it. He is also gay and lives his life very secretively but is also open about his sexuality.\n \nI came to ______ thinking that this is how all homosexuals lived, I also thought it was ok to use the work gay as an adjective to describe a situation. I thought nothing of hearing people called fags, queers or homos. I wasn't a bigot but I allowed others to be bigots around me without saying anything. \n \nNow I don't allow it around me, even at the risk of ostracising myself at work or with my friends and family. I don't allow it at all, I find it offensive. This has also translated with people of different skin colors, religious views and eating choices(odd but true).\n \nSo as much as we worry about how much things may lead the outsider to come to misguided conclusions ______ has actually made me a better person. Its openness about humanity and how it operates changed me, don't let it change for the sake of being politically correct all the time.