WTF...Im Gone!!!

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    Picasso Seahorse Whisperer

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    Yeah, Wonton, I was thinking the same thing. Parents can be so cruel. I don't watch the show but I saw that Jon Gosslen guy talking about how much he hated his wife and I was thinking "gee, someday your children are going to grow up and see you trash talking their mom". Smitty, I am so sorry you're having these problems. The break-up of a marriage is a horrible thing. I strongly suggest you two try to go to classes or therapy so you can build a good foundation for your children (not to reconcile the marriage but to try to come to a good place in your parenting of your children). My best advice is to talk to your children as much as you can so she can't hurt your relationship with them. Good luck, our thoughts are with you.

    Catherine
     
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    That's a fabulous idea. How old are your children? Do you have to take them back to her?

    Catherine
     
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    Good luck with everything Smitty.

    If you need some small peices of rock to help seed your tank, let me know. We could meet up at one of the LFS.
     
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    They are too young to make that decision right now, they are 9,8,5,and 3...so yeah, they go back on sunday evening. We have court ordered joint custody, and I get them every other weekend.
     
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    Are you able to go to back to court and revise the custodianship?
     
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    glad to see you;re doing well and staying strong. You;ll feel even better about all this in a while when you have a new hot girlfriend who will do anything to make you happy. Then you will blame yourself for not leaving her sooner :Cheers:
     
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    Bifferwine I am a girl

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    Smitty you are being so strong! I really admire you. So many times, you see one person go crawling back to the other, over and over again. And I'd hate to see that happen to someone I care about!

    I guess you know exactly what I'm talking about, being a police officer. You probably see it all the time.
     
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    Naww..IL laws still side with the female...she would have to be a drug addict for someone to take the kids from the mother. Once they become teens, then they can decide where they want to go.
     
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    Thank you Biff...It's taking everything in me and a lot of prayer to stay calm and humble, but I'm not doing it for me, I'm doing it for my boys. I also owe you guys big time for being there for me to lean on and talk to...thank you all!
     
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    On a good note...all of my rocks that I got from the house, I bought a 30gal rubbermaid tote and placed them inside with the 4 PH's, a heater, and the protein skimmer. I also added 3 32oz bottles of vinegar and some prime. The skimmer is pulling all kinds of gunk. I'll do a water change every 2 days or so. I've also scraped all the dead corals off the rocks to minimize a huge spike. We'll see how it goes. I've also placed the 29gal in place where I will set it up in my bedroom. I can't wait till the rocks are ready to use again.
     
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    Good on you.
    Can't wait to see the new build thread!
     
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    i can just see it now, "the phoenix tank"
     
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    I'm sorry, but I don't get it...what is a phoenix tank???
     
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    you know the pheonix a mythical bird which rises up out of its own ashes when it dies

    See project you wish did come true :mrgreen:
     
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    Oh, like jean grey off of x-men...gotcha. I was a little slow, forgive me...lol
     
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    No problem. Just here to help:Cheers:
     
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    That is just pure hate. I feel for you, buddy.
     
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