my tap water has no nitrates and neither should any of yours, i can't limit my lighting because i have a lot of soft corals
Who says? That's totally not true. Ever heard of blue baby syndrome? It's a fatal disease in newborns caused by high nitrates in drinking water.
Tap water commonly has high levels of nitrates, because what's considered "safe" for human consumption is way too high for a reef tank. The current EPA standard for nitrates in drinking water is 10 ppm, the level determined low enough to protect infants from blue baby syndrome, meaning most tap water will contain up to 10 ppm of nitrates. Where I live, according to the annual water report, nitrates are routinely at 40 ppm coming out of my tap. Which is not safe for a reef tank (or infants, apparently).
It is very common not only to have nitrates in tap water, but phosphates as well, which are also a common cause of algae. And not to mention, heavy metals that will slowly kill your inverts and corals, that tap water conditions cannot remove. There are so many reasons NOT to use tap water in a reef tank.
Second, you CAN limit your lighting, especially if you have soft corals. Soft corals can live off of 4 to 6 hours of lighting a day. And you can turn off your lights for 4 days at a time and not have your corals suffer. Even if you have SPS, you can safely turn off your lighting for several days. It isn't sunny 365 days a year in nature on the reefs. You have cloudy days, stormy days, overcast days, where there is hardly any sun.